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The ups and downs (with a Tolle spin)...

My life tends to be pretty even-keeled most of the time. Every now and then, however, there are ups (always fun) and downs (not so fun). Yesterday was kind of a down day, and as always, it takes time to not only get over the circumstances but also the emotions.

Tolle talks a lot about not labeling emotions as good or bad but rather letting yourself experience them. It's not easy to do, but I'm trying today. The emotions I'm feeling? Disappointment. Frustration. Concern. Anxiety. And I feel somewhat scattered, which means I'm working on getting my act together. ;)

I do think it's important to also look for positive aspects, even during down times -- and certainly, last night was a highlight to the otherwise challenging day. D's teacher gave his back-to-school talk, and it was thoughtful, well-presented, and provided some good insights into his motivations and philosophies. I left feeling much more peaceful about D's upcoming year.

Interestingly, I was one of the only parents who felt better after his talk. I don't know if it's because I used to be a teacher or if it's because D is unusually responsible and organized (or both); but it certainly reminded me that Tolle has a point: life is life, and how it strikes us (in terms of being 'good' or 'bad') is amazingly subjective. If I can stop labeling events and simply live them, I do think I will grow toward peace and joy and acceptance/understanding.

So now, as I allow the other emotions to exist in me and consider the next steps (ie, what can I do about the old friend who didn't meet me as arranged yesterday and hasn't yet contacted me with any reason? or what advice/support can I offer DH about his car which is fixable -- maybe -- but with no guarantees? or how will I handle the disorganized and somewhat overwhelming task of coordinating volunteers for school? etc), I'm also trying to just live and take each moment for what it is...

So simple, no? (I wish, ha.)

How about you?


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Aug. 30th, 2012 05:47 pm (UTC)
It's hard to control emotions, to not label them os good or bad. But you're a positive person, always trying to see the bright side and I'm sure you'll let them flow and live.
It's hard when a friend disappoints you and there's no apparent reason, but maybe is to soon and your friend will call and explain. I know is hard but stop your mind and let the time pass and see what happens. If your friend doesn't calls, call yourself. Then you can deal with the real reason and let all your feelings for it take a place in you. I know, it's better said than done.

About the car, the only thing you can do is be honest of what you think will be better, make the decision together. That way whatever happens no one is going to feel bad.
I know you are going to do a great job at the school, just breathe!

It's great all that you felt about D's teacher, let that overshadow the rest.

Aug. 30th, 2012 08:18 pm (UTC)
Thanks, Anabel :) The thing with the friend is tough because I *did* call and e-mail as soon as I realized there was a problem -- so the ball is firmly in his court. *shrugs* I think I just have to let it go...
Aug. 31st, 2012 04:46 pm (UTC)
Oh, I'm sorry Robin. I think you just have to wait and as you say let it go.
Aug. 30th, 2012 06:06 pm (UTC)
Friend - call and ask if she is okay and feign concern over her well being since she stood you up. Likely just forgot and will be mortally upset over the faux pas.

DH - a hug and sincere affirmation that he will make the right decision.

Volunteer Job - I would jump off the bridge but m certain you will pull it off :O)

And then tell me to MMOB ;o)

{{{ }}}

PS - good that D has a great sounding teacher!
Aug. 30th, 2012 08:20 pm (UTC)
Re: Suugestions
LOL -- we think alike -- I called as soon as I realized something seemed to be amiss and did just what you said ;) Sadly, he's not called back.

I like the jumping off the bridge idea (ha)...and yeah, we're very pleased with D's teacher.
Aug. 30th, 2012 11:46 pm (UTC)
Re: Suugestions
LOL ...in my 1st draft, I put she/he, then changed it to she. Never assume :O)
Aug. 31st, 2012 01:48 am (UTC)
Re: Suugestions
This was the first male friend I've ever attempted to meet up with (outside of reunions)...I'll try not to use him as a stereotype, though ;)
Aug. 30th, 2012 06:57 pm (UTC)
I agree with calling the friend to and asking if she's okay to find out what happened--but you know her best and if you don't think that would work, don't do it.

As for the car, we ended up having to buy a new (well, used--but new to us) truck for my hubby about a month ago because we kept pouring money into the old one to fix things. We decided it was better in the long run to stop pouring money into something that needed constant repairing and get something that would go (hopefully) several years without needing a repair. But now we have a car payment that's about double what we were paying before. Still, it will save us money in the long run and gives him a better vehicle that we don't have to worry will break while he's out working (he uses it to haul his trailer that carries the bread he delivers to the stores/restaurants). I'm not sure what decision you guys should make, but it should be something you can both agree on--otherwise it will cause problems later on down the road (no pun intended).

I hope things calm down for you soon and you find the peace you need to make the decisions in your life that will help you along your path (without too many bumps along the way).

Aug. 30th, 2012 08:23 pm (UTC)
We're thinking we'll have to get DH another car too. The garage 'fixed' it, but it's still got issues, and it's just not worth enough to completely fix. When I have to buy a car (which, granted, I've only done once on my own), I do the research, and then I go and get it done -- I bought my first car that way, all in one day. I can't stand the waffling and test driving a ton of different cars. I go in with an idea of what I want, and if they have something pretty close, I get it! DH is the waffling type...so I'm hoping that since it's *his* car, I can just stay out of it (hoping, hoping, hoping).

Thanks for the hugs (and I hope your truck truly does give you years of good service)!
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