robinellen (robinellen) wrote,

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It is what it is...

Although I don't think Tolle was the first to come up with that, he talks a lot about it in his books. His theme is that people assign 'good' or 'bad' to circumstances in their lives, and then they're not only dealing with the actual circumstance but also the connotations from the value judgment. Of course, it seems to be human nature to make those value judgments, but I've noticed that when I can hold back some, it does make that moment (and the subsequent ones) easier to live.

For example, yesterday, DH learned that there's a strong chance he will no longer receive any business from one of his clients. It was discouraging, especially right now as the appraisal world is slowing way down. At first, I let it get me down. I assigned a value -- bad -- to that knowledge. But then, as Tolle's ideas began to sink in a bit, I realized that it is what it is. We don't know what will come of this.

Instead of worrying, I tried just taking in the moment. Worrying about it will do no good -- it won't change anything. We don't know if this will lead to financial struggles down the road or not -- we can't know.

It is what it is...and that's okay.
Tags: finding thanks, tolle
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